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You Didn't Hear This From Me

(Mostly) True Notes on Gossip

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"Gossip is the only cultural tradition I care about, and Kelsey McKinney has written its Bible" – Samantha Irby, #1 NYT bestselling author
From the host of the Normal Gossip podcast, a delightfully insightful exploration of our obsession with gossip that weaves together journalism, cultural criticism, and memoir.
As the pandemic forced us to socialize at a distance, Kelsey McKinney was mourning the juicy updates and jaw-dropping stories she'd typically collect over drinks with friends—and from her hunger, the blockbuster Normal Gossip podcast was born. With listenership in the millions, Kelsey found herself thinking more critically about gossip as a form, and wanting to better understand the role it plays in our culture.
In You Didn't Hear This From Me, McKinney explores the murkiness of everyday storytelling. Why is gossip considered a sin, and how can we better recognize when it's being weaponized? Why do we think we're entitled to every detail of a celebrity's personal life? And how do we define "gossip," anyway? As much as the book aims to treat gossip as a subject worthy of rigor, it also hopes to capture the heart of gossiping: how enchanting and fun it can be to lean over and whisper something a little salacious into your friend's ear.
With wit and honesty, McKinney unmasks what we're actually searching for when we demand to know the truth—and how much the truth really matters in the first place.
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    • Kirkus

      January 1, 2025
      How gossip shapes our stories and selves. McKinney, reporter, novelist, and host of theNormal Gossip podcast, examines the fundamental role of gossip in human connection. As she observes, "We gossip and we tell stories because that is how we each make sense of the world, with ourselves at the center reaching outward trying to connect with others, to prove to ourselves that we are real, that if anything is true, it is us." She takes an ambitious journey through the landscape of human storytelling, and her exploration spans multiple domains: religious history ("Gossip and religion are braided together in our history as a species, so it makes sense that our belief systems have created rules around how we gossip and when. Maybe that is why the two--gossip and Christianity--are so intertwined for me"), ancient literature, and contemporary culture. Drawing fromThe Epic of Gilgamesh, she illustrates how even humanity's oldest known written story revolves around intimate conversations and shared secrets between its heroes, demonstrating gossip's timeless role in storytelling. She references literary giants like Jane Austen, Kurt Vonnegut, and Rachel Cusk alongside commentary on reality TV phenomena such asThe Real Housewives andThe Bachelor franchises, while also examining celebrity narratives like Britney Spears' public story. Personal experience enriches McKinney's perspective, particularly her account of losing hearing in one ear and how this physical limitation has shaped her relationship to information and rumor. While McKinney provides meticulous research and offers some genuine insights in her attempt to elevate gossip to a worthy subject of study, the book's expansive scope ultimately works against it. What might have been a sharp, incisive essay feels diluted when stretched to book length. The result is a work that, despite some intriguing observations, would have landed with more impact in a more condensed format. A perceptive, earnestly documented, yet unnecessarily sprawling exploration of gossip.

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      February 1, 2025
      Journalist McKinney is no stranger to gossip. As a child, she prayed that God would take away her love of gossip, as her evangelical upbringing taught her it was a sin. Now, as the host of the podcast Normal Gossip, McKinney takes a thoughtful and sharply written look at gossip and its role in shaping power, safety, and truth. Heavier topics include an analysis of gossip's role in the #MeToo movement and the difference between gossip and conspiracy theories. Others look at the power dynamics of social groups via the 2004 film Mean Girls and its 2024 adaptation and the assumption that all gossip is morally wrong. McKinney's wit and storytelling ability shine brightest when she discusses popular culture, such as reality television and gossip's role in community building. Fans of Normal Gossip may wish for a few more juicy stories but will recognize McKinney's distinctive voice throughout the book. With a blend of research and anecdote, You Didn't Hear This from Me is a robust consideration of an often-maligned topic.

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